AHHHHHHH!!!!!

 This weekend out at the lake with friends I saw something happen that I've always heard happened , but I had never seen  happen with my own eyes.  I was completely in awe. We all know men tend to have more than one chick they are dealing with and sooner or later they will choose that one they want to be with, the one that lights a spark under them, and that one will become the one they may truly love. Well anyway I don't think this guy could careless about any of these chicks. Let me just get to the story.

 Well I was invited to the lake this weekend to hang with a friend and his friends we planned on all having a good time, which we did, we stayed on the boat for four days, rode the jet ski's, had a barbeque. I mean overall it was a great weekend I had a blast! Now this is what really took the cake for me I'll try not to be as explicit. Here we go... 

  Day One.... Like I mentioned earlier I was invited to the lake to hang out with my friend on his boat and some of his friends (two guys who were bringing their lady friends) so with the two guys it was three girls between them. Anyway to speed up day one one of the friends (I'll just call him friend "B") I believe it was  his birthday he talked  to one of the chicks so this particular girl had her cousin and homegirl with her. Everything was cool and we were partying and drinking while on the boat. Me and my friend were driving the boat, and the chick that new friend B her and her cousin went under the boat and left the homegirl and the other homeboy up top with us drinking and partying. The stuff that happened after that I was totally in awe because this type of stuff had never happened to me before. Basically the two chicks did their thing to each other and then did him (threesome). It got to the point to where when i decided to go to sleep and my friend make them leave from downstairs. For some reason I had to go up stairs and they were all in the open doing the "business". The friend of the girl ask to be dropped off at the dock to go home because she was in awe like me and she had to get to her kid because her mother was watching him/her. The cousin and the chick to friend "B" stays. Now I'm thinking what type of woman would be all in the open in front of people just doing stuff like that. It's one thing to be behind closed doors or in the comfort of your own home but to be on a boat with random people ... Come on son that was crazy, I mean it just wasn't registering correctly what was going on.  So anyway I go to sleep they are still on the boat doing whatever upstairs.

Day Two: I wake up and the girls are gone so friend "B" tells us that the chick he was seeing had fallen asleep and the cousin came on to him and they she started to go dome crazy (ladies watch your friends and family around dudes u deal with) but anyway the cousin is going dome crazy while the chick is sleep. WHAT!!!? WAIT A MINUTE!! I'm like this is crazy!! So then he says his lil chick wakes up and realizes what is going on and was like her alarm is going off she needs to get home to the babysitter to get her kid, she gets off the boat at a different dock and proceeds to walk almost two miles to where her car was (chicken head should've been home instead of being nasty). So her and the cousin left early that morning. Later that day another chick shows up for Friend B once again, we all riding jet ski's  and finally we drop off friend B new chick to the boat because she doesn't wanna ride anymore. So she's on the boat with my friend and his cousin while I'm riding jet ski's and friend B is too as well. So once we get back to the boat friend B and his new chick goes down to the bottom and they do they little thing. Once again we kick them out to go to sleep and as I shower I proceed to put my swimsuit on top of the boat to dry , Friend B and the new chick are going at it outside on the boat... WTF is wrong with these girls like I really don't understand. So my friends cousin leaves but as he left he said that Friend B's chick gave him her number while we were on jet ski's but we didn't believe him. So anyway this chick stays the night and leaves in the morning to go home. 

Day Three: As we wake up we get a call from the cousin like he's going to pick up friend B's chick (I'm like WTH these girls have NO respect for themselves) bia you just left the boat. So after this dude just finished knocking you off you go with my friends cousin .. Like Really??!! So my friend's homeboys leave to get stuff they need and then come back.. Finally peace and quiet so we take the boat to get drained, to get gas, and fill the boat with water so we can shower and stuff and then I get on the jet ski's once again. Now Friend B has yet another female with him now this time he was like "This is my wifey" (i guess he was telling me so I wouldn't slip up and say nothing). If I tell you this fool acted like he was just a damn saint I couldn't believe it and "wifey" had no idea of the stuff that was going on the last two days!! She was all happy and smiling and I'm just thinking girl only if you knew what I had seen.  Man, I have never seen that happen in front of my eyes like that. Some people are just too open and out there and to be honest the reason men come at women like myself side ways is because of the chicks that let them get away with murder and think the shit is cute. I'm like really, what are you getting after all of that? I was really like WTH just happened, I mean if you could have been there I kid you not it's just some stuff you don't do in  certain places. No matter how comfortable you are with yourself.. That was just too much for me honestly and I'm looking at him like dude you are NASTY!!! There's is no way chicks like that should get married!! Your leaving your kids at your mothers so you can go out and be nasty an oh yeah you are 40 like really get your life together. You will never be married, especially if you can be passed around that easy. Pick and choose the things you do and hey maybe that's what you want to do but don't get mad if you get called a "hoe" because thats how your acting. Keep your stuff private. Your all free with it out her just everywhere when you should know better. Now for this Friend B I know your homeboys may think your the man because you  banged damn near six chicks in three days but really that is disgusting keep your stuff in your pants!!! This was like a revolving door this weekend one out and hear comes another one!!

 

Interracial Dating

 

      Does it bother you to see a black or white individual dating the opposite race? I know I always hear people saying they hate when they see a white woman with a black man, I mean really, who cares, get over it you are allowed to like who you like. People make me sick sometimes. So here's my story and I'll keep it short and sweet.
     Last night while hanging with my girl at a bar, a white guy approached me and we were talking and having a great time, harmless fun. I see these black guys looking at me, so I ignored them and continued talking to the gentleman I was talking to before. As soon as I noticed, the african american guy walks up and stops, looks at me cutting off the guy I was talking to and makes a comment. Like really though? You rude B****H! I just don't understand and then he gives me this funky look. So I ignored him and kept  doing what it was I was doing. Some people are just ignorant and it's so sad. That man did nothing to you for you to be rude let alone disrespectful.
    Why do people make it a big deal about who someone dates? I don't care if your orange as long as you make me laugh, keep me happy, and do what you are suppose to then I'm good and no complaints. I've seen women hate on brothers for dating the opposite race and brothers doing the same thing. I had a friend matter of fact two, they were white guys tell me that they liked me but one couldn't be with a black girl until his grandparents died because they were racist; and the other guy was like his mom likes black people but doesn't want his son marrying a black woman. WOW crazy right, but this is the world we live in. I'm so glad my mother doesn't mind who I date. But these were grown men in  high 20's lower 30's. I mean in my opinion I wouldn't let anyone sabotage something I have with someone that I like. I had to share that experience with you because I had never had anyone physically walk up to me to make a comment it's always said by passing.

To do for yourself or NOT

Blogging from my cell... Ok so you know what I hate the most, it would be when someone tells you they are going to do something and then they make an excuse not too. Now I know someone will read this and think I'm talking about them and that may be correct but you are not the only one. Here are some things women get tired of; of course, you have the liars, cheaters, deceivers, yeah yeah we know about all those types of men and the funny thing is men think the same way about some of the women out here. But of course I beg to differ because I know how me and my friends are and we love to cater especially if the man is doing all that he is suppose to. So what is the problem .. Hmm ok I here a lot of men and women both saying well I've been hurt so many times I don't give in. Well guess what honey we all have hell I'm living proof but I don't think I always come at the dude wrong and not open up. I let you dig your own hole and then I eliminate you. Go figure right?! But anyway let's get back to the point where people say they will do something to help you out and then turn around and don't. I hate those people what if I really was looking forward to this being done. Like really my day or even plans must change. You inconvenienced me. But what I've learned is that you can't depend on every one and you have to have your stuff on point and just do it yourself because if you waited on a man/woman to do what they say they will do it's like waiting on men to have babies ( maybe that wasnt a good analogy) but you see what I mean it's rare it happens. People are always out here trying to just look out for themselves and if it doesn't benefit them they want no parts of it and it's sad. We have to do better and stop being selfish.

The Dating Game

I read an article today about it being okay for a woman to date multiple guys at one time. Choosing the right guy is almost like finding the car you like.  When I say date I mean dinner, movies, sporting events, etc. It's crazy because nowadays if a woman talks to more than one man at a time she's considered a hoe. But that's beside the point, I totally agree with the article because as a woman we get emotionally attached. So why not date to figure out what's best for you. Dating one man at a time takes a lot of time, and if your putting your all into one person and they are not doing the same when it comes to you then guess who's feeling are hurt.. YOURS! You need to be able to keep your mind off of what's stressing you. I'm not going to lie I talk to multiple dudes and like I said its not about having sex because that's not the case but we hang out; have they tried me of course what man wouldn't? The reason for my doing is because I know I'll get attached and expect more if I like you and if your not ready for the next step then I'm left on the burner. We are strong individuals as women, but, we tend to wear our heart on our sleeve. I believe men date multiple woman because they are trying to figure out who best fits their life and then you have those who have no motive what so ever its just because they can. You have some men who don't even realize they are ready to commit until they find that woman that makes them feel they can spend the rest of their lives with her. Now this may not be for everyone but it can be a helping factor. Think about it !!

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Bad Dating Decisions!!

How many woman have looked at a man's car to try and determine whether he has money or not?  Oh come on we all have, it's just something we do. But I'm sure you've also learned that a man's car does not determine his wealth so ladies be careful not to be fooled. Your out at a bar and a guy walks up to try and holla and he's in this nice car. I mean girl he is riding everything foreign and you think this clown has paper stacked to the ceiling.  You fall for the car instead of him and soon realize that this clown has been driving his homeboys ride. Ladies you know guys look out for their boys, lol he got you. So what do you do, do you try and hang around only because he is doing a little bit of something for you; or do you leave? I think its hilarious that chicks tend to zoom in on the whip because its all flashy and in style. Ladies we must understand that less is best. The ones that are flashy with all the chains, diamonds, and  jewels, are not the ones with the money. That's that "new age" money, new age meaning they just got a hold of some dough and they don't know what to do with it because they never had it before so they blow it. Let me tell you something if he blowing you better be saving because chances are he won't have it for every long. Don't be fooled by the extra stuff they throw out there it's all just for show.
 My advice is you may need to do a little bit more research and find out who this person is you are dealing with. I see a lot of guys who have these nice whips and he has the paper tag because he quote unquote just bought it. But then a whole month later he still has a paper tag. If I'm clear on this aren't your permanent tags suppose to be here after 30 days. Okay, Okay I understand there may be a chance that something happens and the tags are not ready but if you see this after the second month, my child he on some crooked stuff and his "boy" may own a car lot. Remember I said boys look out for they boys, so you thinking this guy had bought this car and all awhile he's driving it until they can find a way to sell it. Yeah don't be fooled it happens, your boo is not who he says he is. Ladies be careful and smart!

Sincerely,
A Single Lady

What's Wrong with Them?

 

So I've been in Atlanta a little over a year now and when I first got here I didn't do anything. I met a guy that I put my all into and he put his all into another woman. HUH Go figure, this is Atlanta, the "Playing Field", some of you may wonder why do I call that. Well, thats because this is the land where a man can pick and choose to date six to eight women a week. Atlanta, the city of showoffs where everyone has to be in the "IT" crowd, the city where  thirty year old men have roommates, and the city of opportunity. What kills me is that a woman is okay with the fact her dude or boo has other women and thats okay if your casually "DATING". What I don't like is the guy that invites all his women to the same place and he thinks it's okay. So where do I fit in, I honestly don't know yet  every now and again I'll show my face with my girls and hang out but the majority of the time its work and home. My girls and I all have the same outlook on Atlanta and the men as I'm sure most women do, but like I said I don't like the man who invites all his women in the same place at on time. I'll share my experience with you.
   I'm born and raised in Houston ,Tx and the way I was raised may have been different but my mother always taught me to hold my ground, have my own  backbone, don't depend on no one, and NEVER let a man disrespect you. I met a guy and of course you get those texts that say "BABY I MISS YOU COME AND SEE ME". I just laugh at those because its game most of the time. But anyway my reply was I'm out of town, which I was, but I never said when I was coming back. Now let me remind you this is a guy that said he wasn't talking to anyone. Well anyway, I come back and go to a place with my homegirl and as we walk in I see him with a chick. I mean I can't be mad because we aren't dating or even together but the look on his face makes him look so guilty. He gets all big-eyed in the face because  he was caught with someone after he told me he wasn't seeing anyone but me hmm, I guess. So what happens, my girlfriend goes to speak and I walk behind her. They speak, then he proceeds to shake my hand and say "hey".. LOL shake my hand but any other time he's quick to give me a hug. Second sign of guiltiness but I'm looking at him with a straight face but laughing in my head. Guys are extremely funny. Throughout the night after I walked off he just kept looking, it took for the girl to leave for him to come over and start a conversation. Negative, you will not come and talk to me after she leaves; you should've talked while she was there. Then he had the nerve to ask me to come over, I looked at him and  said "You need to call back the chick that just left and ask her to come over because you have the wrong one." That's the disrespect I'm talking about, what makes you think you can even approach me after that happened about coming over. Have you lost your mind!!! What I want to know is who okayed you to be that way, I mean does it look like I would go for something like that. Really?! I just don't understand where they get this cockiness from. The bouncer looks at me and says. "I cant believe you did that to him, he's not use to being told "NO" by chicks." I mean to me if you have the balls to even approach me like that you are really brave because I am not the one. Don't Play!
Some people may call it whatever it is you want but I have respect for myself and the next person will too! I mean its nothing wrong with dating different people because you have to find the right one for you, just don't lie about it. KEEP IT REAL!!! What a guy needs to understand is we respect you a lot more if your Honest!!

Sincerely,  
A Single Lady